Showing posts with label personal. Show all posts
Showing posts with label personal. Show all posts

Friday, June 10, 2011

The Choice is yours - OM [one moment] meet up #55

I welcome anything that will make me laugh these days.  I've already seen Bridesmaids twice and this week's double episode of Modern Family helped me make it to today.  I even welcome the bodily noises and questionable humor my boys introduce on a daily basis.  Anything to make me laugh.

Last week, on our way home from a delicious clam shack dinner,  we experienced a family moment that made all of us laugh out loud.  We were cruising down the highway listening to various music I was DJing from my iPhone when M (14yo) asked if he could play a song of his own. 

The moment his song began, all 5 of us (a friend of the boys' included) began bobbing our heads up and down, gesturing and howling with laughter. 

Picture, if you will, a conservative SUV pulling up next to you with the windows rolled down and 5 heads bouncing to The Choice is yours by Black Sheep (a.k.a. the Kia hamster commercial). 



The moment was so fun we had to do it twice!  Do dot dippity!

What made you laugh this week?


Friday, May 6, 2011

Regarding our state of affairs - OM [one moment] meet up #50

It has been an interesting week as details of Bin Laden's death has captivated the world.  Monday morning, I woke up to various tweets that caused me to turn on the TV.  This was the first that I had heard about what had happened.  As M headed out the door for school, I told him the news.  His response was, "Really?  Wow."  Although genuine, it was typically minimal for a 14 year old.  When 9 yo E came downstairs, he overheard the news and said, "That's good, right?"

Friday, November 12, 2010

Overcoming holiday stress - OM [one moment] meet up #30


I was exchanging emails with a friend earlier this week when I mentioned that it was my goal to enjoy the holidays this year.  For the past 5 years, since my indie business began, October through December 25 has been a stressful time of year for me.  It's the busiest for sales which means production has to increase greatly.  For the past 3 years, I've done several shows in addition to online sales. This year, I've cut back significantly.  The result has been that my dining room hasn't turned into a sweat shop and I've been making dinners that require forethought and a stove.  I hope to have my house decorated and holiday shopping done at an enjoyable pace.  My mantra this year is "enjoy a stress free holiday."  [Hey, that would make a great card.]

Back to my email with my friend.  She said she was in the same place.  Ahhhh, what a relief it is that someone else feels the same way I do.  It's nice to know that I'm not alone.  For years, my biggest struggles with my business were my own expectations (and believe me, no one could be harder on me then me).  I've constantly struggled with whether I should go to the "next level" and grow my business, hire employees, etc. The answer has always been the same - I like the way things are and I like my business small and manageable for me.  It is exactly as "big" as I want it to be.  


om [one moment] meet upOM is a weekly meet up that promotes living   in the moment.  Whether funny, sad, ridiculous, or banal, looking for   these moments can promote balance in our lives. 

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Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Hello from San Francisco

Well, I've been lost in a sea of fog here.  Actually, today it is sunny and lovely. 

We arrived Saturday afternoon and settled into the hotel downtown.   So far, I've spent a lot of time shopping.  Frankly, I'm beginning to feel a bit shopped out.  But nothing is more fun than running around with a good friend of 25 years trying on shoes, drinking flavored lattes, and laughing.  We've had a blast.


Yesterday, we drove to Reno to look at my dream house - a mid century modern home just minutes from C's new office.  Fingers crossed, if all goes well, we will be living in it next year.

Staying downtown has it's limitations.  We are mostly surrounded by big name stores.  I did come across a great boutique today called A Miner Miracle.  It is a shop that offers a big selection of famous maker clothes (Calvin Klein, DKNY, Via Spiga, Michael Kors and more ) at 50-80% below retail.  Best of all, it is a non-profit organization whose proceeds go directly to low-income families.  It has been recognized with an Oprah's Angel Network Award and named the "best place to get designer duds."  I bought a few sweaters there and realized that next year I'll live close enough to come back to one of their popular sample sale benefits.  Great fun, great cause!

Will be heading to dinner soon, but wanted to check in.  Hope you are having a great week!

Friday, October 1, 2010

Finding my balance with a daily dose of creativity - OM [one moment] meet up #24

 art print by In a Pale Place

Balance in life - we are all looking for it.  Those of us who have found it, work at keeping it.  I'm beginning to realize and accept that routine and flexibility are key to balance.

By nature, I'm a type A, overachiever, stress inducer, non relaxing kind of person. This gets me into trouble as I take on too many things, worry about getting everything done, and then beat myself up for not doing it perfectly.  It's a vicious cycle.  Does this sound familiar to you?   I've been trying to break the cycle for a long time.

This week, I purposely mixed up my typical routine to see what would happen.  Although I was swimming in appointments, deadlines, and must-dos, I added exercise and creativity to my daily routine.  The exercise part is important and necessary.  It is the creativity part that was a surprise to me.  Let me explain.

The curse of the creativeClearly a big part of my work is sewing, jewelry making, designing, generally being creative.  However a large part of my work, and often more consuming part, is typical office management work:  bookkeeping, marketing, writing/blogging, planning, etc.  Yesterday, as I was busy working on deadlines at the computer, I stopped what I was doing and sat at my sewing machine.  I took 15 minutes and finished a few projects.  I did this, not because I had to but because I wanted to.  It felt great.  It didn't feel like work (although technically it was).  It felt like I was feeding my creativity.  Doing something creative in my day makes me happy:  new, old, starting or finishing a project.  I need to do something creative every day.

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Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Reno, Lake Tahoe, airplanes, In and Out Burger, and online friends

Hello!  I'm back from our trip to Reno in body but not soul.  I'm finding it difficult to focus enough to get my act together and back to work.  I also have a cold and feel pretty cruddy.  So, I'm giving myself a bit of a break.

While I have lots to share, today I'm only going to show you just a few pictures from our trip.  We had a very full 5 days in Reno and Lake Tahoe.  We met some wonderful people, ate lots of great food, went to the air races, boating on the lake and I met my online friend, Angie (a.k.a.  Jumping Jack Designs and @modernpaper), in person. 


We had pit passes, so the boys (C included) enjoyed the planes up close and personal.  As you can see, some of the military planes were massive.
The Air Races were fun although E and I spent most of our time walking the midway looking at souvenirs.

Reno has one In and Out Burger, so we had to introduce the boys.  This is Max's Animal Style burger.  Rhode Islander's, he thinks 5 Guys Burger and Fries rivals In and Out Burger
[257/365 O is for Online - Angie's flickr]

Here's a picture that Angie's husband took.  It was so great to meet her in person as I feel like we've been online buddies for a long time.  I got to introduce my family to most of hers and see Angie's work in person. That was truly one of the highlights of this trip for me.

I'll share more soon, but for now I have to clear my head...literally...because it is so congested it may explode.

Friday, September 10, 2010

A promise of time to myself - OM [one moment] meet up #21

Hello, my name is Linda and I'm a workaholic.  Seriously.

However, this week, I took one day and spent it with a friend on her sailboat.  We packed a lunch, grabbed some wine and music, and headed to the harbor.  Her boat, on its mooring, was a wonderful place to just relax and chat.  We laughed.  We shared family stories.  We had a lovely time.  It was a mini vacation.


The nice thing about running my business from my home is that I can control my schedule.  If the kids are sick, I can take the day off (although I still pop in and out of my office).  If I have a school meeting or volunteer commitment, I can do that.  However, what I've found in the past 5 years is that I tend to work a lot...almost all the time.  When the kids are in bed, between cooking dinner and football practice, on the weekends, etc.  That is the hard part of running a business from my home...closing the door to my office and walking away.  My kids think I work more than my husband does.  He works 90+ hours a week as a resident (and is always on call).  That's a shame and not something I want my kids to believe.

With that said, I want to be sure that when an opportunity arises, such as a friend asking me to do something, I allow myself that time.  It is necessary to my happiness and well being.  It is crucial to my relationships. Did you know that planning fun activities for ones self is a treatment for depression?  I've always considered it a luxury, but we all need something to look forward to each week. 

om [one moment] meet upWhat was your 'one moment' this week? What took you out of your present moment and made you see things a little differently or made you laugh, cry, be thankful, etc.?

Share in the blog comments here, on your own blog (and link back below) or on my Facebook fan page. If you are on Twitter, I've started a hash tag - #omMeetup so that we can converse if we'd like. We'd love to hear your moment this week!

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Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Learning to eat with chopsticks should be on everyone's bucket list

Last week, I wrote a post about what to buy at the Asian market.  I mentioned that I'd write another post about the utensils and appliances I use.  As I began writing, I realized that chopsticks needed a post all of their own.

When I was little, my parents made a choice that would affect my entire life.  They (perhaps just my father) decided that I should not learn to speak Vietnamese.  It was the mid 1960's and mixed couples were frowned upon.  I was to be raised "American," whatever that meant.  My father thought I'd be confused otherwise.  Along with not learning the language, I did not learn to appreciate eating, cooking, or anything associated with being Vietnamese.  It wasn't until college that I embraced my heritage.  This is something I've regretted all of my life (a completely different post).

When I met my husband 18 years ago, we went to an Asian restaurant in Chicago for one of our first dates.  I was mortified that he easily picked up chopsticks and began eating.  I don't recall if he said anything about my not knowing how to use them, but I came away determined that I'd learn to.  How could this French Canadian (white) boy know how to use chopsticks and a 1/2 Asian girl not?!  So, for the next 2 months, I only used chopsticks at all meals.  I learned quickly .

Now, my whole family eats with chopsticks.  Sometimes we even use them while eating spaghetti.  The boys learned to use chopsticks quite early.  Kids learn quickly and are only limited by the adults that surround them.  I cook with chopsticks, too.

Some interesting facts about chopsticks:

They were first made in China some 5,000 years ago.
The first pair were likely twigs. 
An old Korean superstition holds that “the closer to the tip one holds a pair of chopsticks, the longer one will stay unmarried.”
Thais do not commonly use chopsticks.
Standing chopsticks in a bowl of rice is considered bad manners.  It resembles incense sticks at a funeral.  [source]

Here is a a video on how to use chopsticks.  But, I must stress that the easiest way to learn is by simply using (fumbling) with them for a month or so.  For kids, it can be easier to start out with chopsticks that are joined together with rubber bands.  You can see how to make your own learning chopsticks here.  Or you can buy fun chopsticks for them like these from Fred and Friends

I have three different types of chopsticks in my house.
This place setting includes a rice bowl and a small sauce bowl for dipping.  I use my sauce bowls for spoon rests, too.

Fancy chopsticks:
These are mostly for show and, in my opinion, harder to use than plain wooden chopsticks.  Mine are wooden with shell inlays and should be hand washed.  They add an elegant touch to your table setting especially if used with chopstick rests (like my pewter fish above). 

Everyday chopsticks:

My everyday chopsticks are wooden and have a round tip (unlike my fancy ones with pointed tips).  They grip better than plastic ones.  And, they also come in handy to turn out corners of my sewing projects.

Cooking chopsticks:

These are longer and are great when stir frying, not to mention impressing your friends.

Another great reason for using chopsticks...you'll eat slower and less food.  Not a bad thing to do for many of us in the US.

I get the biggest joy out of seeing my kids eat with chopsticks.  I think it is a small gift that you can give to yourself or your kids.  If you do not know how to eat with chopsticks, I challenge you to learn.  If you do, come back and let me know!

Friday, August 13, 2010

A visit with my mom - OM [one moment] meet up #17

My mom is visiting from Colorado. She hasn't been here in 2 years although we had visited her during that time. I have a unique, for lack of a better word, relationship with her. Many hours have been spent trying to understand it. Many tears have been shed trying to change it.  I'm finally beginning to accept it for what it is after 44 years.
Mom (23), me (5), brother (a few months)

My mom is Vietnamese (her mom is 1/2 Chinese). She met my father during the Vietnam war when she was 16. She married my dad, left her family, and came to this country at 17. She had me at 18. She's had a very different life than I will ever know. If I told you any more, I'd be writing a book.

My moment came this week when I realized that after all these years we dance around each other just as we did when I was a child. I found comfort in that. I found myself remembering my years living in the same house with her and I realized that nothing has changed. Without judgment of the dance itself, there is a great sense of relief realizing that I can't change it and that it simply is.

What was your 'one moment' this week? What took you out of your present moment and made you accept, release, smile?

Share in the blog comments here, on your own blog (and link back below) or on my Facebook fan page. If you are on Twitter, I've started a hash tag - #omMeetup so that we can converse if we'd like. We'd love to hear your moment this week!

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Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Sacramento sunrise and other news



Sacramento sunrise, originally uploaded by alamodestuff.

We are back from our quick trip out West sans kids.  It was nice to be in Sacramento during it's "worst."  The temps were in the triple digits but without the humidity I'm used to.  It was lovely.  I even got to spend some time by the pool.

[view of pool, photo by moi]

This was my first time in California's capital.  I was very pleasantly surprised to find a city full of trees and greenery.  We were taken to two incredible restaurants that I'd highly recommend:  Frank Fat's on L Street, Sacramento's oldest eating establishment (fantastic Chinese food) and Ella, an all around beautiful dining experience from food to decor.



 [source] photos by Mathjis Wessing


We got back on Saturday night.  Sunday morning, I was playfully thumped upon by Sophie.  She startled me while I was asleep resulting in a pinched nerve in my neck.  I've been taking it easy ever since.  Not sure what I'll be able to accomplish this week.  Frankly, I'm not too worried about it.  I find it a welcomed excuse to slow down.

 [sculpture by E, photo by moi]

Sunday, I went to the smallest 4H fair in existence.  It was quaint and fun, but not quite what I was expecting having experienced 4H in Indidana.  Everything is relative isn't it.

 [photo by moi]
Hope you are having a great week!

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Sweet summer distractions

bear banks
Bear banks, originally uploaded by alamodestuff.
Well, the summer isn't quite going as planned. C is working all the time - literally, all the time (when he's home he has the pager clipped to the collar of his shirt). The boys are finally in camp and the time I have to get any sort of work accomplished (be it business or home) is limited. I'm trying hard to go with the flow but that goes directly against my nature.

So, my blog friends, be patient in the next two months. I'm uncertain where my head will be and how my blog posts will fair. I am distracted.

The other day E and I stopped into a downtown toy store while M was getting his hair cut. These cute bear banks were sitting on the shelf and I couldn't resist snapping photos of them (with my iPhone, btw). May they bring a smile to your day!

Let me know what's going on with you this summer. Is it good so far? Any tips on keeping the sanity?

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

The nation's oldest 4th of July parade in Bristol, RI

top hat


In 1785, the first 4th of July parade took place in Bristol, RI. This is the home of the nation's oldest and continuous 4th of July celebration. Just one town over from ours, this small town along the Narragansett Bay throws a huge party to celebrate our nation's independence. While many of the old homes are decked out in red, white, and blue every day, the 4th of July is the day the town works toward each year.

The people of Bristol are serious about their parade and start staking territory as early as 1AM the morning of. The roads are closed early in the morning and traffic stands still until the parade ends.

For the past 5 years, my mother-in-law has hosted a party just around the corner from the parade route. Her home becomes party central as many of our friends and hers stop by for food, drink, air conditioning, and fun. As this year may be our last here, the celebration was bittersweet.

Here are a few photos I snapped this year (for full screen mode, hover over and click on the 4 arrows on the lower right corner of the photo box).




What did you do this weekend?

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

What home is to me - a la mode STUFF - a pin it forward mashup w/ SFGirlbyBay

[updated 6/16/10 - this post inspired me to design some digital prints you can see here.]

Victoria of SFGirlbyBay has put together yet another great blogging mashup this time along with Pinterest (a great new site that allows you to "pin" things you see and like on the internet to your own virtual pin board). Over 300 bloggers are scheduled to write a post about what home means to them over the course of 2 months. 

For me, this could not have come at a better moment, as my husband is interviewing for jobs [read more here] in this last year of his medical residency. I have struggled with the meaning of  home in the literal sense.  Our "home" has been temporary for many years.  Having this opportunity to dissect the meaning of home has helped me put the chaos of my impending move into perspective.

To me, home is:


What is home to you?

See more photos from my Pinterest Pin it Forward pin board here.

photo sources:  me, Spring Globe, enfi, Monika Thorpe, uhoh over, Trentlloyd,  me

Be sure to check out tomorrow's Pin it Forward by Make do and send, yesterday's by m.o.m.  and the many other groups scheduled here.

Friday, June 4, 2010

OM [one moment] meet up - week #8 - reality sinks in

C and I were in the Reno/Lake Tahoe area Tuesday - Thursday this week.  C had an interview at a practice there and I joined him to check out the area. 


For those of you who are not familiar, C is a medical resident embarking on his 7th and final year of residency.  He started this long journey over 13 years ago when our oldest son was born.  Having been a banker for a number of years, he decided to go to med school.  The last 13 years of training looked something like this:

1 2 years of pre med classes [update 6.9.10 - was correct by hubs.  When it's all over it will be 14 yrs]
1 year of research and applying to medical schools
4 years of medical school
7 years of residency
[I remember discussing with C, early on in his medical shcool training, what he might consider specializing in.  The conversation ended with me asking what specialty had the longest residency program.  When he told me neurosurgery, 7 years, I told him that was what he was going to choose.  I was right.]

peppered with 2 major periods of uncertainty:

1) medical school acceptance  - Northwestern, which luckily did not require us to move as we were living in Chicago at the time.

2) residency match - an arcane process where the students rank their choices for residency whilst the schools rank their choices of students.  Students literally find out where they are going just months from when they need to begin.  As you can imagine, this is hard on families.  After learning we were going to Brown, I remember sitting for a quiet moment outside the Dean's office.  Rhode Island...where the heck is Rhode Island?  Chris had to pull up a map and show me exactily where we'd be spending the next 7 years.

and

90 + hour work weeks, overnight calls, tight budgets, and  knowing we'd likely be moving the family again!!


So, here we are.  The light at the end of the tunnel, which used to be a pinhole, is now the size of a quarter.  The gamble is about to payoff.

Our lives have been mostly dictated by this whole process.  Not much choice, other than the initial choice of going down this path.  It's all the boys have ever known.  It's about all that I can bare.  We both agreed that it is surreal to think that we are finally nearing the end of this long journey.  My "one moment" this week was trying to let reality sink in and breath a sigh of relief for the future.

What was your 'one moment' this week? What took you out of your present moment and made you pause, pinch yourself, smile?

Share in the blog comments here, on your own blog (and link back below) or on my Facebook fan page. If you are on Twitter, I've started a hash tag - #OMmeetup so that we can converse if we'd like. We'd love to hear your moment this week!

To learn more about this weekly post, OM [one moment] meetup, please see the original post here.

Sunday, May 30, 2010

soundbite a la mode - sign of middle age


mow without gas, originally uploaded by Doc macaSTAT.

A quote from my husband:

"One sign that you are middle aged is when you have a kid old enough to mow the lawn."

Friday, May 28, 2010

OM [one moment] meet up - week #7 - rewards for giving a moment


47/365-Old Hands, originally uploaded by A.I.Boniface.


I stopped by to see my neighbor this week. She is in her mid to late 80s and we like to keep an eye out for her. She was a nurse for many years, raised 4 kids, and was married to conservationist for 60 years. [He used to study the migration patterns of the turtles in our local pond.] She has a quick wit, open mind,  and wonderful perspective on life. I can only hope to be as "in touch" with the world in my 80s.

Mrs. R invited me into her home and we chatted for about 15 minutes. When I asked how she was doing, she told me she had just been feeling sorry for herself.  She missed her husband.

I was glad I stopped by.

She began talking about the oil spill in the Gulf and how angry she was about this incident "that should have never happened." She said her husband would have been heart broken. I had never seen her in this light.

She began to reminisce about all of the advances she has seen in her lifetime: antibiotics, city wide infrastructure, land development. She said that to some degree, the advances have developed more problems for us.

I agreed.

I was so glad to have stopped by Mrs. R's house. It gave me a chance to see life through her eyes. It gave her a chance to talk to someone about her feelings.  I found that this 'one moment' resonated in my mind throughout the day and week.

I need to stop by to see her more often.

What was your 'one moment' this week? What took you out of your present moment and made you wonder, smile, remember?

Share in the blog comments here, on your own blog (and link back below) or on my Facebook fan page. If you are on Twitter, I've started a hash tag - #OMmeetup so that we can converse if we'd like. We'd love to hear your moment this week!

To learn more about this weekly post, OM [one moment] meetup, please see the original post here.

Monday, May 24, 2010

Highlights of our night in Boston without the kids

We stayed at the Hotel Marlowe in Cambridge (just around the corner from the Science Museum) - great 4 star hotel that I'd recommend.  More whimsical in decor than modern, but lovely.  The robes made us laugh so hard we felt that we needed to share this picture.

Waiting for C outside the hotel before heading over to The Liberty Hotel. [check out their website]



Many FB friends recommended we stay at The Liberty but they were booked solid. The building is a converted prison and very cool. We ate at Clink, one of their 3 great restaurants (Clink, Alibi, Scambo). The food was wonderful and the atmosphere very hip.  The hotel was packed with nightlife.  Next time, we are staying there for sure. [Thanks, friends, for the recommendations!]



On Sunday morning, after a leisurely breakfast and walk along the river, we stopped by the galleria for some quick shopping.  We couldn't pass up the very crowded Apple store.  Playing with the iPad, we saved my blog and website to all the iPad home screens.  Now that's what I call guerrilla marketing!


It has been hard to get back into the work mode today.  The weather is beautiful outside and I'm not feeling very motivated.  I do plan some fun posts this week:  kimonos, outdoor spaces, and perhaps a how-to (if I can edit some footage).  Today, you'll have to forgive me for being a bit self-indulgent.

Friday, May 7, 2010

OM [one moment] meet up - week #5 - Battling bamboo in the garden

I hope you had a great week. Mine was on the long and exhausting side but I'm hanging in there. C just returned from an 8 day class and nat'l conference and will now be on chief call for 10 days straight (meaning he will get calls and can be called in to the hospital 24/7 for the next 10 days). If you see my mood change in the next week, don't be surprised!


My one moment this week actually came to me last Sunday as I was toiling in my garden. We have a 12' x 4' bamboo patch that screens a blue stone patio from our neighbors for privacy. When we put in the bamboo, we were told it was a "clumping" variety and could be easily controlled. Hmmmm...."easily controlled" is a relative term which now means pulling pavers up and cutting new growth every spring (a.k.a. lots of work).  The bamboo sprouts up all over the yard, under the pavers, into the house. I can only imagine what the overall root system looks like under the surface.

We were naive.  Someone once told us that only an enemy would suggest planting bamboo. We should have planted it in large pots like a good friend of mine did in Seattle.  It looks great in large pots and serves it's purpose well.

I love bamboo!  I love it's sustainable, fast growing quality.  I love it's overall appearance.  It gave us instant privacy.  Who knew there was so much bad that comes with the good.

My bamboo seems to be a bit of a metaphor in life - anything worth having comes with [lots] of maintenance.

What was your 'one moment' this week? Share in the blog comments here, on your own blog (and link back below) or on my Facebook fan page. If you are on Twitter, I've started a hash tag - #ommeetup. We'd love to hear your moment this week!

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